Shila J
The Change Maker: Transitioning and Embracing Miraculous Change
Rochester, Kent United Kingdom
59 hours
How I support my clients
Working with death, transitions, and change is my passion and my specialty.
As a therapist and death doula, I have sat with many beautiful souls as they near the end of their life’s journey, offering them compassion and supporting them with finding the necessary peace, understanding and closure in their lives. It is an honour for me to do this. I also offer regular support to clients facing bereavement and loss. Loss, as I have found, comes in many forms, be it the loss of a dream, a relationship, a job. The ending of anything in our lives- the death of a loved one, relationship, identity, is often an invitation, inviting us to meet these transition points in our life with greater faith and courage so that we can become more of who we truly are. We do not need to wait until we are close to death to do this- to become more of who we truly are. I can show you how to do this now- to manage major transition points in your life to come to a place of greater peace and acceptance as you move to the next stage of your life.
Endings can often feel scary, and when we are afraid of death or endings, we can be afraid of life, of living our life fully and dealing with changes when they come; not truly recognising the gifts that embracing change can actually bring you.
Whether it is an enforced change, or a change you know it is necessary to make to step into the next best version of yourself; transitioning to the next stage of your life requires the ability to face your own inner fears and limitations as you leave the old and familiar behind. The process can be likened to the butterfly emerging from the safety of its chrysalis and finding its wings to step forward into a new world across the threshold, to a more expansive life that awaits. Let me support you with the transition points you are currently going through so that you can truly become a powerful change agent in your own life and navigate through life to the next level of your being with more ease and grace. Let me support you to uplevel yourself to step more fully into your power and magnificence to embrace the life you truly desire!
I am the right therapist for you if you are a yes to any of these:
- Are you at a major transition point in your life, facing an ending or about to make a major life change but do not know how to navigate through it?
- Are you struggling to deal with a death; your own death, the death of a loved one, death of a relationship; death of an old way of life, or adjusting to a new way of being?
- Do you feel stuck and unable to move to the next level of your being?
- Do you often procrastinate, finding various reasons you cannot make the changes you need to, even though you are not feeling fulfilled or living your best life?
- Does it feel like you are at the cliff’s edge wanting to fly but you're afraid of taking the plunge?
- Are you resistant to change and afraid that if you let go of the old and familiar, you will be thrown into the unknown and lose everything because you dared to risk?
Imagine, if through a Compassion Key Session, you could:
- Feel empowered to face your own mortality or that of a loved one, feeling the inner peace and acceptance you so deeply desire.
- Access your inner courage and wisdom to act as a powerful change maker in your life.
- Feel supported as you navigate to the next stage of your life with greater ease.
- See the blessing and gift of the change that has come knocking on your door, as an invitation for something more beautiful and grander than you could ever imagine right now.
- Shift from a place of possibility to miraculous results.
- Spread your wings and shine the fullness of your light in this world and beyond, while sharing your gifts, and talents with others.
- Embrace the life that you truly desire, fully grounded in your highest expression, power, and magnificence.
Know that this shift is waiting for you. Let’s work together to achieve it!
Specialties/Areas Shila Supports:
Health, Money, Purpose/Mission/Impact, Relationship, Spiritual
About Shila
Hello, I am Shila, your Death, Transitioning and Embracing Miraculous Change Coach. I have been working in the field of personal development and healing for over 20 years, and have helped many of my clients to make the necessary breakthroughs to transition to the next stage of their life and step into their power and magnificence.
In my healing journey I have met the deepest and darkest parts of my being and have been able to serve my clients in doing the same.
I am a longstanding bereavement therapist and death doula, and am often called to work with clients at the most challenging periods in their lives. In my work as a bereavement therapist I have assisted individuals affected by deep trauma, such as during the Tsunami disaster in Sri Lanka, and as a second responder in the UK, with families affected by the Grenfell Fire. I have also set up a death cafe in my community to support those facing death and loss in their lives. It is a privilege for me to work with the bereaved, and those facing the end of life. They teach me so much what it means to live life more fully.
As part of my life's work, I am also a coach and mentor to many. My background in equality and diversity enables me to have a developed understanding about what inclusivity means, and I have been blessed to work with many diverse groups of people across all ages, faiths and backgrounds. In one of my career paths, I coached ethnic minority clients with breaking through their own internal glass ceilings to climb the career ladder and succeed in their personal missions. This is a piece of work I am particularly proud of, as I am with my community engagement work helping those who are feeling disenfranchised and need a sense of social belonging. I recently won a community award for this work and have won several other awards over the years in this field.
Another passion of mine is health and well- being. I am the well-being lead within my workplace and regularly deliver wellness seminars at individual and corporate level.
I am currently writing my first book: ‘I can’t take it any more’, which is all about meeting transition points in our lives with courage clarity and resilience. I have also started a podcast called ‘True Face’, which is focused on what it means to be our true authentic selves, in how we show up to ourselves and the world.
I intend to bring all my skills and experience to the table to support you on your healing journey to create the all important breakthroughs that are needed for you to meet your transition points and to embrace miraculous change.
Certification
Compassion Key: Master
- BA Hons- Applied Social Sciences- specialising in Third World Development Studies
- MA and Mphil- Political Philosophy
- Certified Counsellor
- Bereavement therapist specialising in loss and trauma, working with children and young people and cultural issues in bereavement
- Certified Happiness and Spiritual Life Coach
- Certified Mindfulness practitioner
- Practitioner Certificate in Project Management
- Certified Non-Personal Awareness Practitioner
- Trainer’s Trainer in NLP
- Certified Hypnotherapist
- Past life Regression Therapist
- Death Doula
- Akashic Reader.
- Education Mentor
- Qualified workplace mediator and Mediator Supervisor.
- Certified in Integrated and Family Constellation work
- Trained in various healing modalities at Masters Level, such as Reiki and Seichem and trained in offering Galactic and ET Med Bed healing sessions
Policies
Session Price: $150
30% Off First Session With Coupon Code SHILA30 FOR A LIMITED TIME ONLY
Customized Transformation Packages are available to save you money and to support you to achieve deeper healing and peace. Please enquire about my Discounted Packages.
Times are UK time zone
Mon 18:00pm – 21:00pm
Tues 18:00pm – 21:00pm
Weds 18:00pm – 21:00pm
Thurs 18:00pm – 21:00pm
Reviews from Shila 's Clients
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My session was very healing and touched upon many issues. Much was cleared out and I feel much lighter. I am grateful to have found Shila. Highly recommed!
I just had a really powerful session with Shila where a traumatized part from a past life was healed, brought to the light and the lessons deeply integrated within my being. Shila is a wonderful guide.
Thank you so much for our session. I am very grateful to you for holding space for me, it was a huge clearing! There is like a bowl of peace where anger used to sit in my heart, it is a wonderful feeling.
I have already noticed changes in my assertiveness relative to boundaries, and in my ability to express myself, and I am sure there will be many more changes to come.
Shila is amazing. She trusts herself and me which is utterly contagious. I never knew that getting stuck in and dealing with such gruesomely painful issues could be such fun!
I had a great session with Shila today, we started off with a chat about what came up for me lately and gradually went into some very deep wounds. Shila was very good at feeling into my pains and bringing up the right healing statements. I wholeheartedly recommend working with Shila.
I had a lovely session with Shila. She guided me through a massive clearing session with advanced techniques and was patient with the process as old energy dissipated and new energy integrated in. I have been having several meaningful shifts in my life since her session. I highly recommend her! Thank you so much, Shila.
Shila is an awesome, kind and generous facilitator : she got rid of my resistance and helped me get an enormous shift. She generously took extra time to help me accomplish this shift and I am forever grateful for this. I am very happy my soul led me to her, I instantly felt a connection and she hold me firm and soft during the whole session when I would quit following an old pattern.
Thank you again Shila <3
Shila was very clear, calm & compassionate. I had multiple issues going on, including a lot of chronic physical pain. She worked with me quite patiently. As a result, I had some deep breakthroughs, including shifts within my body, with lessening of the pain as it dissolved during the session. I would highly recommend working with her!
The session with Shila was fantastic! It was safe, powerful, deep, fun and very transforming. Shila made me very safe with her presens, clear guidance and fearlessness. I am so grateful.
Thank you for the warm very present time we spent together. So greatful for the long integration time which shifted so much.
I was very grateful for my session with Shila. Patient, professional & intuitive even when my internet connection was causing problems.
Thank you Shila, the visual prompts and CK phrases were very powerful.
Just amazing. Shila was so empathic and intuitive in what she said which enabled her to encourage me to embrace a side of me that I REALLY have misunderstood and discouraged. So liberating. She models a quality of trust and boldness that is tempered with real kindness. Contagious!
In our session, Shila helped me (through the long form process) going from a small black singularity that didn’t want to talk at all, to a freefloating orb of bright light that, in the end, I could fully integrate into my body. Amazing! It was a really tricky one. Thank you so much Shila! ❤️
My session with Shila was amazing! She is such a beautiful soul with a grounded, loving, mother like energy, which is just what I needed. Would 10/10 recommend and I can’t say enough wonderful things about it!
My session with Shila went really deep and it was intense! I experienced cathartic releases and felt a huge shift at the end. I am so thankful to be able to merge back with my hurt inner child into a beautiful brilliant butterfly <3
Shila held the space really well and facilitated all the right phrases to allow me to go really deep. She is also intuitive and made me feel really comfortable. Thank you so much! :*
Shila is a gifted healer who uses her intuitive skills with clarity and confidence. She guided me to become aware of a particular early childhood issue that I was only vaguely aware of, which was revealed and healed at a greater depth than I’d ever experienced. I was uplifted and felt great light, joy, and love between me and my inner child. I am grateful to Shila and highly recommend her. She truly serves from her heart!
My 1-1 with Shila was magic. SHE is a miracle. I told her that I knew when I saw her face in the list of practitioners that I knew immediately she was a soul sister in this process with me. And indeed was and is! We did the long-form technique and I addressed the theme of self-trust and trust in others with my 1 1/2 year old baby self – my earliest memory in this life having asthma and being in the hospital with wires attached to me. I was on my back and couldn’t roll over – I was cold, lonely, scared, and I couldn’t breathe. Shila’s ISS statements were music in a river of light – so in tune with exactly what I was meant to release, and her voice, grace, and energetic frequency was aligned with the authenticity I discovered about myself, my imprints, and my path. I could write a whole novel about it. Thank you, Shila! I look forward to more sessions with you. Love and light!!!
I had a really meaningful session and I could feel every phrase, which I I’ve had trouble with before. I feel tired and lightheaded but lighter in my heart ❤️ thank you Shila
I loved my experience with Shila J today. She was sweet, and right on target, and I felt very safe. So much energy was shifting and moving and by the end I was in bliss. I’m looking forward to working with her again in the future.
Went in not knowing what to expect or even a clear knowing of really what I wanted to work on but Shila was able to understand enough to start making progress and once the ball got rolling it was intense. Much more at peace within. Thanks so much once again!
Shela was so tuned into my higher self, I am so happy with the outcome. I had no idea that we could find the cause of my pain and suffering in one session! I will definitely refer her to my friends and family.
I had a really great session with Shila! I felt comfortable expressing myself and felt that Shila created a safe environment for me to be vulnerable in. I experienced a beautiful energetic shift with Shila and she really held space for me and allowed me the time I needed to settle into this new energy within myself
Thank you so much Shila for the wonderful session! I’m so grateful and appreciative for it, and I’m sending you lots of love and light ♡
auta ☆
I had a wonderful experience with Shila. She is a warm-hearted generous person. A beautiful focus to really help you move forwards. She helped me with medical issues related to trauma experiences.
My session with Shila was amazing. We got into some deep layers regarding the passing of my mother and abandonment, also linked into a couple of past lives of slavery and starvation. She extended our call to finish what we started. I felt there was a lot cleared and it gives me more information on what areas need my attention now. Thank you Shila ❤️
Wow. Just wow. My session with Shila was everything I needed and more. She was very attentive to my specific needs and facilitated a beautiful communion with my women ancestors. This session helped me to heal deep ancestral traumas, particularly for the women in my familial line. We also covered being deep historical wounds from American slavery. Shila’s ability to tune into my emotional needs and facilitate the Compassion Key statements that would most resonate with me were spot on. Truly a gifted facilitator and highly recommend her services!
Shila J, put the compassion key to perfect use on me. She cleared many layers of imprints while being gentle towards me . I cried so much and felt safer after. Im really impressed how easy it worked, made me wonder if it was magic.
Shila helped clear a deep wound that was preventing me from stepping up. She held space, asked the right questions, allowed time for me to process. Very grateful for her kindness and her care.
A real breakthrough in my session, I was very stressed and not connected to my body and emotions at all ( due in part to dealing with stressful family illness at present) but Shila’s gentle yet incisive presence and skills helped me to not only feel safe enough to connect with my emotions and have a good cry, but also to have a breakthrough in a long standing issue. Thank you so much X
My session with Shila was extraordinary. She guided me deeply into deep release and connection to new resources. Much appreciated and I will be back.
Thank you so much Shila 🙂 I feel much, much lighter like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. When we started the session I didn’t know exactly what it was I needed to focus on – I just felt heavy and down. Throughout the session you guided me and pinpointed precisely what it was I needed to forgive and let go of which related to my relationship with my daughter and post natal depression. All I can say is that something wonderful has happened – as I’ve managed to let go of guilt and grief that I’ve been holding onto and unknowingly suppressing for almost a decade. Already I can see a change in my feelings and emotions and those of my daugher. Thank you for all the kindness and wisdom you showed me which has helped me heal and get me to a much happier place <3 xxx
Shila J
$150/session
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